The Rules are as old as the hills. The rules constrain and dictate our understanding of gender reality. The Rules are rigidly enforced by psychic energies much more powerful than fact and logic. The Rules may be summed up as follows:
Toward men and masculinity we direct accountability without compassion, which is ruthless. It is
respecting men as autonomous and empowered beings responsible for their own decisions and predicaments, but it is not loving men enough to recognize their true vulnerability to forces outside their control and to lend men equal love and empathy.
Toward women and femininity we direct compassion without accountability, which is infantilizing.
It is loving women as valuable vulnerable beings to be protected, but it is not respecting women enough to recognize their true power, autonomy, efficacy, and accountability as equal partners in the human system, equally responsible for outcomes.
For humans with penises, victim is rejected as an illegitimate concept. Men have the power and women are the victims. For humans with vaginas, power is an illegitimate concept.
Men are Bad. Women are Good. And, therefore . . .
All Fault Is Male.
Females are not subject to critique. A critique of the feminine is “misogyny” and is forbidden.
In the sexes’ relationship to each other: men reject victim, embrace shame; women rejected shame,
These are The Rules.
For the sake of balance, we at Gender Equalists break these rules but it would seem that the world at large follows these rules with blind devotion. Any facts or logic that happen to support The Rules are embraced, which allows the Rule followers to believe that fact and logic dictate their beliefs. Any facts or logic that contradict The Rules are rejected, which proves that their gender beliefs are supported by something other than facts and logic. When it comes to gender belief systems, gender politics, gender policies, and gender “common knowledge,” humans are in thrall to the following irrational considerations: sentimentality, instinct, chivalry, Eros, the differing physical appearance and vocal characteristics of men and women, plus the myths and mythos that date all the way back to the mighty Odysseus and the fair Helen of Troy. Against these monumental psychic forces, fact and logic don’t stand a chance.
This conundrum is deepened even further when we consider that humans are not machines. Humans cannot thrive on logic alone. Sentimentality does have a vital role to play in the human mind and in the human heart.
What is romance without the ritual pleasantries of gender?
As I see it, this is what we’re up against, and it is huge!
Because our men’s issues message is in accord with facts and logic (in my experience), it’s fairly easy to gain some measure of agreement out of most of the people we meet. But, because our message is contrary to sentiment, and contrary to the official gender belief system, those same people are rarely willing to commit to our cause. Meanwhile, some of the people we meet are appalled and would have our message erased as “hate speech”!
But paradigms, even passionately but irrationally held paradigms (i.e., an earth-centered universe) have been overturned in the past. The MalePower/FemaleVictimization paradigm is nowhere near as unassailable as it was 30 years ago. “Truth will out.”
But I didn’t write this to be pessimistic. I wrote this because we might as well know what we’re up against.
Moreover, throughout history, The Rules were largely functional. In a world where most humans’ primary
concerns revolved around survival, The Rules provided a much needed measure of stability and practicality.